As the world stands in disbelief of the death of famous comedian and actor Robin Williams, it is difficult for most to fathom the thought that a man who made multiple generations laugh over the years could be battling depression. Despite his fame, fortune, and wealth, he was just as susceptible to the illness of depression as the rest of the estimated 18 million American adults who suffer from this disease (www.allaboutdepression.com). Depression is no respecter of age, race, gender, income, marital status, nor faith beliefs. While it may impact individuals to varying degrees, it has the ability to impact us all. Although there are some indicators that may put some at a higher risk for experiencing depression than others, such as having a lack of social support, you can be well loved, respected, valued and cared for and still struggle with Major Depressive Disorder. No one is immune to depression.…continue reading
First let me make everyone aware that PTSD is not my area of expertise so I will be speaking in very general terms today…
What is PTSD? Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is a mental health disorder that can occur after someone experiences a traumatic event such as combat, assault, or disaster. Most people experience some kind of stress reaction in response to experiencing trauma. PTSD can be the manifestation of this reaction…and the individual could develop a cluster of symptoms that may be later diagnosed as PTSD.
In order to be diagnosed with PTSD the individual must meet several criterion based on the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders – also know as the DSM. Currently mental health and medical providers use the DSM-5 which is the 5th edition of this manual and it was released in May of this year (2013).
There are 8 criteria in the DSM5 for a PTSD diagnosis.…continue reading
Ever wonder about the best ways to effectively reach your audience during a presentation? Or perhaps wondering why you never really connected with your audience even though your facts were relevant, your demeanor was professional and your slide layout was clean? There are key psychological differences in the way men and women receive information and you can learn “how they think” to increase the level of engagement and reception for your next presentation.
I just presented at the 2013 Issachar Leadership conference and it was an awesome experience. I’m sharing my presentation from the session I did, which covers the differences in effectively communicating to women and men in a ministry moment. Don’t get caught up in the word ministry, because this very much applies to presentations in general and digs into the cognitive differences between men and women that can strengthen any presentation based on your audience.
- A better understanding of “how” to effectively minister to women based on “how” we think
- An awareness of the differences of how men think & how women think, so that you can use these differences to your advantage
- A personal ministry moment where God deposits something in your spirit that provides you with personal insight, releases you, or speaks directly to your struggle …continue reading
In a relationship series that I’ve been teaching, we’ve been using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) as a primary approach for developing a clear relationship with self. The goal of ACT is is to create a rich and meaningful life, while accepting the pain that inevitably accompanies it.
ACT asserts that it is only through “mindful action” that we can create a meaningful life. I’ve pulled together some core mindfulness exercises that will help cut through the noise that life creates to help you become more mindful about yourself during daily activities. Take a look and tell me what you think in our comments section.
With gratitude, Dr. S.O.S.
You can accept things about yourself, situations, and relationships by committing to 3 simple steps.
In my latest presentation for the Women’s Relationship series titled Free to be Me, I am focusing on the relationship with yourself. As I have mentioned, life is about relationships, your relationship with God, yourself and others. In session #5 we are dealing with the relationship of “self”. Last week was “self-talk” and learning the influence that our words have in our lives and choosing to use positive self-talk instead of negative self-talk.
This week, we move to acceptance, which includes learning to accept things about ourselves, situations, and relationships. We often find it very difficult to view ourselves in what we perceive to be a negative light due to the impact of shame, guilt, or fear, but by committing to 3 critical steps we can overcome shame, fear or guilt and it begins with acceptance. Learn what the 3 steps to acceptance are.…continue reading
4 Steps to Stopping Negative Self Talk
Relationship Series – Session #4
The words that come from our mouths have the power of curses and blessings. We decide with the words we speak, whether we speak positivity or negativity into our lives. In this presentation, I share how seemingly benign phrases can influence our perception of self and our outlook on life. Inside this presentation I explain the concepts of negative and positive self-talk.
In psychology, we learn about a principle called the “confirmation bias”, I explain in simple terms how we actively seek things that confirm our thoughts, decisions, and beliefs. Inversely, I provide examples of how we avoid things that disconfirm our thoughts, decisions, and beliefs.
Set your sights on positive self-talk comments that provide you with your own positive self-portrayal and image. If you are engaging in negative self-dialogue, I have provided 4 steps to Stopping Negative Self-Talk.
Enjoy this behind the scenes look of Season 3 with Sal and Dionna. I’d like to thank them for their courage and obedience to step forward and share their story with the world. It takes deep faith to place our indiscretions in view of the public. Sal and Dionna decided to do go public, so that other couples could see the possibility of making it through infidelity to enjoy a fulfilling and sustaining relationship.
They are evidence that when we seek God he will answer. Enjoy the slideshow after the click.
This is presentation #3 from the Relationship Series; Free to Be Me. In this series, Dr. SOS continues her exploration of our core relationships; beginning with our relationship with God.
“Renewing of the Mind” focuses on the origins of our self perspectives and provides 3 core steps to renewing your mind and changing any potentially toxic perspectives. She also provides the 4 ways to dealing with any problem drawn from Dialectical Behavior Therapy.…continue reading
This is the presentation from session two of the Relationship Series; “Free to be me.”
In this session we discuss “Your relationship with God, where does it start?” We discuss what develops our image of God, steps to improve our relationship with Him, and practical exercises that we can use to draw ourselves nearer to HIm.